“It’s more vibrant and it becomes truly about good companionship.” ~Candice Bergen
This statement by Candice about relationships and good companionship after age 50 rings very true. As we age, relationships are truly more about companionship – good companionship. Almost everyone in midlife with whom I have discussed this, share this same view. Having probably gone through the many different experiences in relationships, companionship–true, good companionship–becomes very important.
Someone to have deep, meaningful conversations with, share your life experiences with, travel with, dine with, garden with, work-out with, dance and listen to good music with—all these wonderful things that are share-worthy.
In our younger years, we were busy having our various experiences and were just simply going about the daily business of living our lives. But then, we woke up one day, we are now in midlife, and we suddenly realize that this is now a completely different era for us. Many of us might have gone through separations and/or divorces due to either the death of a spouse making us a widow or widower or – what I find is common among many of us – we have simply grown apart from our spouse. Things might have changed over the years and especially if it were someone such as a high school sweetheart or someone we grew up with, as we get older, the changes start happening and we might have just outgrown each other. Or, the kids have grown up and may have moved out or gone off to college and we have now become empty-nesters. Along with that comes the stress and strain of not having a companion and now have to start all over again … seeking companionship… good companionship.
As a result, when next we go looking for love, we are this time looking mostly for someone who can provide good and true companionship. It is super important at this age and stage and many people in midlife are today looking for just that.
Call me crazy but I believe good companionship can even determine how long you might live! It’s therapeutic and essential, if you ask me.